Patience is an important attribute in life. Without it a lot will go wrong; dreams and aspirations will be shattered.
There is a proverb that says ” A patient dog eats the fattest bone”.
This saying might no longer be true but the message stays the same and is true. Patience is a virtue and a very important one at that; in pursuing my dreams I have had to learn how to be patient with myself and others. I was not always the patient type, I always wanted things done quickly and be over with; this might be a good thing but when things don’t go as planned, frustration, anger, sadness and the likes, flood in like the rivers and streams pouring into the ocean.
What is patience? You may ask.
According to the online etymology dictionary, patience is the “quality of being willing to bear adversities, a calm endurance of misfortune, suffering, etc.,” the key word for me here is ‘willingness’ this is important because if you choose to do something out of your will then nothing can stop you. Given that there is nothing sweet or easy about bearing adversities, enduring misfortune, or accepting suffering, the significance of the willpower in pursuing our aspirations cannot be over-emphasized.
In a world where everything is just a click away, patience can almost be seen as a waste of time. Today we believe that things come by easily and fast too, given that we can place orders, and in split seconds we have them delivered to our doorsteps. We want things, and very quickly too! If it is not now, then never. Yes we can get most things immediately but some do take time and these often than not are the best things; building relationships, building a career, learning a new skill, adapting to new cultures, building empires, raising kids, finding yourself, letting go of a bad habit and the list continues.
To have patience, we must have hope and believe that at the end it will all be worth it. We must focus on the prize, the glory that awaits such a venture that demands so much of us; this therefore, means that our patience cannot be in vain because on a daily basis we press toward something greater, with the conviction that the present sufferings or inconveniences are nothing compared to the victory that will be revealed in due season.
A man/woman with great ambition must accompany that with great patience as well, and the reason is not far-fetched, for nine out of ten times you will be subjected to frustration, not by choice but by circumstances and lessons that you must only face and learn along the way to achieving your goals and dreams. But patience alone cannot do the job, hence, hope is a pre-requisite. Alongside patience, we must keep hope alive and not stop believing that the fruits will yield in due time. This combination is important because every good thing takes time, we have to plant, water, wait for it to grow, weed out the unwanted, harvest and then enjoy the fruits of our labor; it is a process.
It is said that when the going gets tough, only the tough get going; but I dare to say that when the going gets tough, only the patient, hopeful and those who believe keep riding in the turbulent and stormy sea of uncertainties and great suffering and discomfort, because they knew from the onset that it was not going to be peaches and cream, hence, were fully prepared to fight it out; because it is only when we forget what we are fighting for that we quit. Continue reading “THE VIRTUE OF PATIENCE”