Personally I have been working on an area of my life that needs growth, and that is my heart. You might ask: what does the heart have to do with personal growth? I would say everything! Why? Because if I don’t examine my heart toward God, me, and others I will never be able to understand and love God, myself and others more than I am currently doing.
Over the years, I have had really good people who have brought the best out of me and others who have been really annoying. You would say such is life, right? But I always wondered why some people made me happy and others, sad!
Most people would recommend for me to stay away from those who made me sad and cling to those who made me happy. Why? Because life is too short.
But I wanted to know why someone has the power to annoy me and make me really sad. Is it something in me or in them that brings this awkward emotion? Is there something that I am missing? Could I be blind toward certain areas of my life that someone else sees? Are they helping me outgrow some negative vibes am unaware of ? Is there something in my life that is stopping me from achieving my true potential that needs to be cutoff? Were they divinely positioned by God to help me grow? Were they sent to purify and prepare me for my destiny? These and many more questions raced through my mind and in the quest to find answers, a friend and a disciple of Christ recommended a book titled “A Tale of Three Kings”. This book is about three kings: Saul, David, and Absalom. I have not finished reading the book but it has being very impactful and I thought that I should share some of the insights that I have found very helpful to my cause.
- The author highlighted three things David learned that prevented him from been hit by Saul’s spear.
One, never learn anything about the fashionable, easily mastered art of spear throwing. Two, stay out of the company of all spear throwers. And three, keep your mouth tightly closed.
I think that these three points are so true if you don’t want to be like your adversary but your best self. If you choose to revenge or do to your enemies what they have done to you then you are just like them, David not desiring to be like Saul, chose the hardest way out…he walked away without saying a word!
As time passes, the behavior of your adversary reveals a great deal about him/her. And the passing of time, and the way you react to him/her reveals a great deal about you.
I found the latter part very interesting because it is true. Our reactions are a revelation of our true selves. Do I like my reactions to those who annoy me?
Looking at the story of Saul and David, I believe that God put Saul in his life to help him see how not to be a king in the order of Saul. God used Saul to purge David of any Saulness in him lol.
In conclusion, God might have put certain people in our lives to help us become who we were born to be rather than be influenced by them and become like them. I am now focusing on what has been said and not on the one who said it, if there is any truth in it, I simply change my ways and grow up. If I see a bad attitude and/or attribute in someone, I check myself and if I find that same thing in me I cut it off.
Change takes place in a split second, it is the decision to change that takes forever.
Take a look at all your tormentors and adversaries and ask yourself this simple question: what is God trying to teach me?
I will come back with lessons from the concluding part. Stay tuned!
Thanks for reading!